What Questions Should You Ask When Applying to a Private School? A Parent’s Guide
As an Admissions Director, parents often ask me what questions they should ask when applying to a private school. To be honest, I am not a big fan of the word "should." I believe parents show up best when they arrive as their authentic selves. Of course, basic preparation matters, showing up on time and taking a tour are essential. But when it comes to asking questions, focus on what is genuinely on your mind. If you care about campus security, ask about security. If you want to know how your child will be academically challenged, ask about curriculum depth. Ask what matters to you. When you ask questions based on what you think an admissions officer wants to hear, it comes off as contrived and inauthentic.
Start with Your Core Values
Instead of looking for a checklist of standard questions, take a moment to reflect on what matters most to your family. Is it:
Diversity and inclusion?
Academic excellence and critical thinking?
Creativity and artistic expression?
Social emotional and character development?
Active parent involvement?
Once you get clear on your family's core values, the right questions will come naturally.
Preparation is Key
The admissions journey is truly what you make of it. If you approach it with anxiety, it will be stressful; if you approach it with curiosity, it can be an insightful and exciting experience.
However, being prepared makes all the difference:
Do your homework: Read through the school’s website thoroughly.
Take the tour: Get a feel for the campus culture in person.
Talk to current families: Connect with parents who already have children at the school to get an honest perspective.
There is nothing more challenging than interviewing parents who have not taken these steps. When applicants arrive without knowing basic details about our community, we end up spending the entire interview delivering a generic overview rather than getting to know the family. Doing your research shows that you care about finding the right fit, and it opens the door for a far more meaningful conversation.
